This morning I experienced another first as a new mama. I took the buggy out ALL BY MYSELF. My back has been a bit sore lately so I thought I'd give it a try. We haven't had great success with the buggy, it usually results in PB pushing it whilst I walk alongside carrying the babe in my arms. (And feeling quite embarrassed...) But someone suggested the other day that I prop BB up a little so she can see out, after all she is a little sticky-beak.
We rugged up and headed out to Mother's Group. The buggy ride was great! Mother's Group not so much. I mean, it's okay. I suppose we are attachment parenting, when I think about it, so the class isn't that relevant to how we roll. The women are nice. Some of them are even really lovely. But I haven't naturally clicked with anyone and this whole forced friendship thing makes me feel a bit weird.
If I don't make that life long friend at Mother's Group that I keep hearing about, that's ok. Somehow over the couple of months I've met some more cool ladies around my area, so I'm not feeling that lonely in this new city anymore.
PS. Sorry, another iPhone photo. Not too bad I think!
Don't be discouraged by a lack of connection at your mothers group. I have a couple of examples as to why to can be good to go along anyway:
ReplyDelete1. I moved away from my home town when my baby was 10 months old, but continued to return regularly to visit my mother. For my daughter's third birthday she organised a surprise birthday party with all of the kids/parents from the mothers group.
Even though I never had much in common with them at the time, it was good to catch up and compare notes.
2: Years after the initial mothers group meetings had passed and my daugher was six years old, I had a job that involved travelling around the state to provide training courses. One of my participants was from the new mothers group - it was a blast from the past, and a great opportunity to connect.
I guess what I am trying to say is that you although you may not feel like you have a lot in common with the members of the group right now, in three or five years time, something may happen that brings back memories of a good time in your life, and its worth investing in.
Cheers
What a tongue! So cute!
ReplyDeleteyes, i agree with Engracia, you'll find and gravitate toward the people who are parenting in a similar way to you, that's how it worked for us.
ReplyDeleteyou're doing all the right things, don't feel embarrassed. i could not WAIT to stop using our buggy.
Awwww cuuute!
ReplyDeleteo my she is such a noo-noo - love this pic - the colours, texture, expression - not too bad for an iPhone snap at all!
ReplyDeleteps- i hear you on the moms group thing, it's also more just peace of mind cos all in same boat & can ask questions about baby things & eat cake!
x
I stopped by to let you know we spotted your friend's book "There was an Old Sailor" at the library. Of course we brought it home and read it at bedtime. Oh yes giggles. I love her illustrations especially the water.
ReplyDeleteThe pic is a keeper!
Mother's group, hey at least you both get to put on something cute and venture out. Right?
She is beautiful. I love that rug too :)
ReplyDeleteThat tongue is THE BEST!
ReplyDeleteoh that little face!!! and i want to be your new mama friend :) i wish we lived closer.
ReplyDeletei never had luck at any mom groups, either. your iphone does a great job!!!
ReplyDeleteThat picture is so wonderful. :)
ReplyDeleteThat is such a great photo!
ReplyDeleteWarm wishes, Tonya
Really? An Iphone pic?! Not bad at all. I am really enjoying your honest accounts of the reality of being a new mum. I'm looking forward to some of these little milestones myself.
ReplyDeleteOh she is soooo prettyyy!!!!! I love her!
ReplyDeleteShe is ridiculously cute, that tongue is edible! I think being a new parent it's really important to surround yourself in like minded parenting folk. I am migrating to people who have the same philosophy as well, and haven't seemed to find anyone on the same page at mother's group. I feel more judged than supported there, which is a shame. Oh, and after reading one of your posts, I've downloaded hipstamatic on my iphone and have taken some cracker snaps of my little man. I love the graininess of them. x
ReplyDeleteBeautiful photo, so cheeky....
ReplyDeleteforced friendship is never good. i felt so relieved when i found a steiner playgroup where everyone has the same ethics/values/beliefs as we do. it made me feel incredibly supported in a way that i'd never experienced before. rosie is obviously a little too little for playgroup but i think it's something that will suit you guys in the future. x
ReplyDeleteAnna this photo is just so beautyful!! perfect little rummey bear she is!!!
ReplyDeleteRosie is gorgeous and I just love her little bonnet! It must be made by a nanna out there somewhere.
ReplyDeleteaww, i wouldn't have even guessed it was an iphone photo. it's lovely and i wish mine were as good as that!
ReplyDeletep.s. i'm not a mama but i think you are v. brave in living in a city without heaps of friends and family around to make things easier. it sounds like you're doing a great job being Rosie's mummy and that's the main thing innit!
This photo is gorgeous. Hang in there. You are doing a great job!
ReplyDeleteThis photo makes my heart melt! : ) Little Bear looks so super cute!
ReplyDeleteSo so so cute! x
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