12.6.10

Yesterday I was the reciepient of a random act of kindness from a total stranger.

PB, BB and I were at the supermarket, discussing what to get for lunch. We had friends coming over and we were trying to think of what we could make that was yummy and within our weekly budget. I had a bunch of vine ripened tomatoes in the basket. PB was suggesting to get salmon. We weren't arguing, nor were we speaking loudly. The conversation went something like this:

We could get some salmon?
We can't afford salmon.
We only need a small piece. For baguettes. It will be nice.
OK. What about these tomatoes?
We have other tomatoes at home.
OK, we'll use those. I think we need cheese.
What cheese do you want?
I dunno. I've lost track of our budget this week. And we bought the heater last week...
Yeah. I have a fiver in my wallet.
I have a fiver too.

Now don't get me wrong, we're not by any means poor. Although we rent a teeny flat we're in a lovely part of Sydney. When we lived in London we went out for dinners, movies and I bought myself new clothes (probably a little too often). Coming back to Australia and starting a family so unexpectadly has made us have to shift things around a little. We live on one salary. We took a small loan to get a car and with the left over bought a camera. The camera is an investment that we hope to put to good use in the near future. We now have a weekly budget. It's not huge, but it allows for groceries, take-away one night, petrol, one visit to an osteopath and maybe a couple of coffees. But I digress...

I looked at the tomatoes and said I'd put them back, but we were still no further along in what to get and I started to get a bit flustered. PB said he would go for a walk to give me a couple of minutes to have a think about what I wanted to do. I walked over and put the tomatoes back and went to check out the cheeses.

A lady walked up to me and put fifty dollars in my basket. At first I thought I must have dropped it, but I knew I didn't have that much on me. Then she said 'Sweetheart, go and get your tomatoes'. I looked down at the money and back at her. I was in shock. I felt my eyes well up with tears and tried my hardest to keep them from spilling over. I grabbed the money to give back to her, telling her that we were really okay and I couldn't possibly accept it. She looked at me again, 'I've been there, I know what it's like. Take it. I can afford it. Go and get your tomotoes and get yourselves something nice. ' I only just managed to get her name before she walked away.

Jan, I know you'll probably never read this but thank you so much. Your kindness will never be forgotten.

I don't expect we'll ever be rich. But I hope one day we'll be a little better off, and maybe I can do something like this for another young family starting out.

95 comments:

  1. **tear** That is the sweetest story ever.

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  2. oh my goodness! thats so sweet!

    did you get your salmon??

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  3. thanks for sharing this story. seriously, thanks. It's so hard for me to ask for help and then so hard for me to admit that help was given. silly because I love to help and deep down i love it when people help me.

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  4. I am sitting at my desk with tears in my eyes. That is the sweetest thing I have heard for a while. Jan, you are one in a million.

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  5. Now I've got tears too. What an amazing woman. I think you should pay it forward somehow Anna? Not in cash, but some other way...xx

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  6. I have tears. And now I have a little more hope.

    Thank you for your story. x

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  7. Just wiping away a tear. How delicious those tomatoes must have been dusted with kindness.
    Carmel

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  8. ahh, this was so beautiful, my eyes welled up reading it.. side note : good job on the camera.. i got a canon rebel XOS a couple of years ago and i have never NEVER regretted it, they take beautifu photos!!!

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  9. Beautiful, beautiful, lovely Jan! The tomato fairy godmother!

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  10. Random acts of kindness make me feel really warm. Some people are just made with grace. I definitely can see you repaying this gesture. I think we'll do something unexpected for another this week just to keep the joy going. Thanks ever so much for reminding me that most everyone is a wee gem.

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  11. There are tears in my eyes too. How wonderful some people make the world.

    My husbands father slipped a fifty one time and a hundred note another time in with my tools for uni. I was studying silver smithing and found it difficult to buy the materials I needed for assessment. Even now he turns up with fresh juice, a cooked chicken and milk when he pops around. My heart soars.
    :)

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  12. oh that is so sweet - what a beautiful person Jan is :)

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  13. Nicest thing ever! Seriously.

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  14. beautiful Jan! You know with you feeling the way you are feeling right now, Jan is also feeling all those emotions. That is the best thing about RAOK; the feelings you give someone else, and the warm fuzzies you feel yourself.

    I bet your lunch was amazing!

    oh and I must say Jan could not have given this RAOK to a nicer family x

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  15. wow. this genuinely made my day. and how lovely that jan's kind act of tomato goodness has gone on to effect so many more people now because you have shared it with us!

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  16. wow - i needed to compose myself and wipe the tears from my eyes before commenting! We definitely need more Jan's in the world. I hope your lunch was amazing and that one day us mothers of young babes will remember this kindness! Thankyou for sharing your story!

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  17. oh my god. such kindness. what a great story to share. you must have been in shock at first. i'm sure you had a great lunch afterwards :)

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  18. The simplest things can be such a soaring help at times; this lady sounds like a truly delightful person.

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  19. i want to be one of those ladies too. wouldn't it be wonderful.

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  20. Tears to the eyes of the hormonal pregnant lady !! What a kind person xxx

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  21. that is so nice. pay it forward (maybe a free photo shoot in the future for someone with that lovely new camera of yours?)!

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  22. Oh, how sweet. Did you get the salmon? :)

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  23. Love it. Sometimes people are so kind, it brings tears to your eyes x

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  24. Your story has just brought tears to my eyes. What a beautiful woman! What a sacred moment you shared.

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  25. Reading this gave me the chills and made my day. What a wonderful woman.

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  26. Isn't life beautiful? I love little reminders of the goodness of human nature and the loveliness of life.

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  27. Hi! I'm another girl with tears in her eyes...and not just because I'm 8 months pregnant, its because you gave me a reminder of how sweet and lovely people can be...

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  28. I'm always amazed by the kindness and generosity of strangers.

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  29. I've had a pretty tough week, and I had a run in with a bus driver who shouted 'shut up' to a lady passenger... I have been feeling pretty low about the state of society (not helped by hormones) but your post made me teary a bit coz it reminds me there are really lovely lovely people out there :)

    PS - I read your blog regularly, but I think I've left one message before this ;)

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  30. Sigh. Sometimes human nature is great.

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  31. that made me cry - so wonderful - going to do the same - soon!

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  32. oh wow! this made me cry! that is sooooo sweet. I love it.

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  33. That is the most wonderful story I have read or heard. I sometimes wonder what sort of a world my children will grow up in, we all seem to have become so self obsessed. This completely restores my faith in us all. I sving this story for when my boys a re a little older, tahnks fro sharing Anna and I hope your lunch was superb.
    Engracia
    xx

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  34. Ahh. So beautiful. I have tears x

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  35. Tears in my eyes of pure joy for such a kind act.

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  36. Oh my goodness, that unexpectedly bought tears to my eyes too! Wow that just blows my mind...such incredible generosity!
    That totally inspires me to do something like that for someone one day too
    Michelle

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  37. What a magnificent human being. Magnificent.

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  38. What a lovely lady! I cried and can't blame hormones. It was a beautiful gesture.

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  39. Couldn't have happened to more awesome people. x

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  40. what a lovely gift! anna, you already DO pay it forward, through sharing your thoughts and life challenges so generously and openly. your words and photos inspire and uplift us all!

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  41. that's such a beautiful story... good things happen to good people they do! am sure that's why she did it! i agree with what everyone else said... really makes me happy to be human!

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  42. wow, amazing! reading this really moved me, how kind, generous and life-affirming!

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  43. What a beautiful story. Makes you realize how beautiful and descent human beings can be. I have goosebumps all over!

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  44. this is so wonderful. it makes my heart swell. i love this. thank you so much for sharing. what a wonderful inspiring post. and i hope you enjoyed the tomatoes!!!

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  45. awesome, awesome story. reminds me of the time i forgot my wallet and the woman behind me said 'i'm so blessed. let me take care of your groceries.' i've since passed on the favor to a man who didn't have enough for his lunch and will again, given the opportunity. makes ya feel better about humanity, doesn't it? xo

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  46. umi said...

    "what a lovely gift! anna, you already DO pay it forward, through sharing your thoughts and life challenges so generously and openly. your words and photos inspire and uplift us all!"

    I completely agree!

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  47. Oh how sweet, give's you hope in the human race doesn't it.

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  48. ok there are tears over here! what a lovely true story. i think you've just made my week. thank you for sharing something that is so good with this world x

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  49. Oh my. What a beautiful story, and what a kind woman. Thank you for telling the story and reminding me that there are such lovely, lovely people out there.

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  50. im so happy to hear this story. i love that grace still lives in people like jan, and that everyone who reads will step away with more hope. thank you for sharing this lovely bit.

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  51. such a wonderful story!

    the lord works in mysterious ways. i hope they were awesome tomatoes.

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  52. Just welled up. This makes me proud to be human, that someone did that for you. what a kind, lovely woman.

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  53. Your story made me cry too! What a kind and generous lady!

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  54. Aw, that's just such a lovely story. Makes me feel happy knowing that people like that still exist in our world today.

    Jan is a star.

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  55. Oh my gosh, your story made me cry a bit. I hope there are lots of Jan's in the world, going about their business and making life a little bit easier for other people when they can.

    (Also, hi! I'm a new reader)

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  56. your story made my eyes misty. This event must have touched you so much that it will stay in your mind whenever you hear a couple discussing over their groceries in 20 years...

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  57. One of the things I miss most about Sydney is the kindness of the people. What a beautiful experience. :)

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  58. It lovely to know that people like Jan still exist in the world and it was nice of you to share this with us! Very, very sweet.

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  59. how wonderful! what a lovely woman.

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  60. That is the most beautiful story!
    I just read it to my husband and girls and I started crying and had to stop several times.
    I bet that little random act of generosity made her feel pretty great too.

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  61. wiping the tears from my eyes......

    What a lovely story. Thank you so much for sharing. It has imspired me to try and do something lovely for someone else. I bet it would feel nice :-)

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  62. Wow. That's such an amazing act of kindness. The world could certainly use more people like her.

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  63. it's such a moving story. thank you for sharing and many thanks to Jan for her kindness!

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  64. Oh my! What a lovely story. I agree... someday I hope to be able to do the same for someone. It is so nice to know that there are still kind hearted people out there...

    xoxo

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  65. Wow so amazing! What a lovely lady.

    P.S, I really like your blog and Sydney is very expensive!

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  66. What an amazing woman. I came to this via Cup of Jo, so thank you for posting this simple but inspiring story and thanks to Cup of Jo for pointing me in it's direction. I wish I could hear a story like this every day. I want to hug Jan.

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  67. Ohh wow, what a lovely person Jan is. Like the rest of commenters I'm typing this with a few tears. I hope you got some good cheese with that!
    xoxo

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  68. This is truly an amazing story. I think you'll appreciate what I am doing. You have a terrific blog!

    I am moving to India this year to volunteer. I'm so so so excited about it and am going to be working in rural areas trying to provide basic services that we all take so much for granted. It is going to be an amazing trip and I'm fundraising for it right now!

    If you spread the word you get a MOOD RING!

    Pretty sweet eh? :)

    http://www.ifyouneverdid.com/2010/07/spread-word-get-mood-ring.html

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  69. This made me cry. In a good way. Thank you so much for sharing.

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  70. what a lovely little story Anna! what a beautiful act of generosity!!

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  71. I agree with Mama Mogantosh and that paying this forward somehow would be really wonderful. Here are some ideas off the top of my head:

    -Work for an hour at a local soup kitchen or food pantry. I know you have a kid, but an hour isn't much and you'd be helping people even less fortunate than yourself.
    -No time? Donate some canned goods.
    -Make dinner and take it to a family in need or another mom just starting out who needs support. You can both get support out of this.

    Hope this helps with ideas!

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  72. how awesome! i hope one day i can do something as generous and spontaneous for someone i don't know, as that lady did for you. for now, my kids and i are finding small ways to do good in the community each month. it's a good way for them to learn to help others. thank you for sharing such a wonderful story :)

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  73. That is the best thing ever - what a wonderful gesture, and so heartening to know that there are such kind giving people in the world!

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  74. Wow, what a sweet, sweet story.

    I always love to hear stories like this, it really reminds me that people are good. A reminder I wish I didn't need but heartwarming nonetheless.

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  75. Wow! What a lovely story! Thank you for sharing it! And thank you Jan wherever you are! See how many people she touched, without knowing it would happen?!

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  76. This is super sweet--thanks for sharing!

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  77. What that lady did for you and your family is lovely. And is karma.

    I'm sure you will have the opportunity to pay it forward to another stranger.

    Thanks for sharing it with the rest of us, it just spreads the good karma.

    ps how it was the dinner and those tomatoes?

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  78. Wow. I'm always amazed that people can be so kind and I'm glad you wrote this. I'm reminded now to do a nice little favor.

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  79. WOW. This is what blogs are for. Thanks for making yours worth reading.
    oxoxo
    Denalee

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  80. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. Sometimes people can dazzle us : )

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  81. reading this made me so much more mindful... it resulted in my own dilemmas... but in a good way.

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  82. That is so sweet. Starting out with a young family is difficult, but oh, so worth it all in the end. What a heartwarming gesture from someone to give you a lift in that particular moment. A good lesson for us all....

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  83. that was beautiful! i love random acts of kindness from strangers. :) makes you feel happy to be alive.

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  84. three cheers for jan! what a sweet woman.

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  85. this made me tear up as well.
    how wonderful! what a blessing. thanks for sharing!

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  86. This is so sweet! I have a similar story of a random act of kindness. I used to work at Starbucks, but eventually realized I needed to stop if I ever wanted to finish my graduate degree. I took out loans and lived extremely frugally. Still, I would occasionally go to Starbucks to study, though most of the time I wouldn't buy anything. One day a former customer remarked that she hardly saw me anymore, and I explained that I was on a budget so I tried not to tempt myself too much. I said this in a cheerful voice -- it was just matter of fact, and not really a big deal. I knew that eventually I would graduate and things would change. Anyway, I got back to my studying. A little while later, she stopped by my table to say good-bye and handed me a $20 Starbucks gift card! It was just so sweet and wonderful, and I really hope that I can make a little difference like that in somebody's life someday too!

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  87. And I'm sure it gave her as much joy in doing this as it did for you receiving it.

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  88. what a sweet sweet story! I feel silly sitting here at work with tears in my eyes (but I suppose that is what i get for reading your lovely blog instead of working). I love all your photos, the camera was definitely a good investment! your little one is so cute, especially in the hand knitted stuff!

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  89. That happened to me a while back when I was still a single mom. We were looking at school supplies right before the beginning of school, and I was getting upset with the total costs, and trying to convince the kids we could get some this week and some in two weeks. So hard! But a lady came up and gave me, Oh, I believe it was a $20, and told me to get what I needed. I was stunned and tried to give it back, but she wouldn't let me. I was too embarrassed to ask her name, but I'll never ever forget her.

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  90. what a wonderful story. thank you. I linked to it on my blog - http://parentplanet.wordpress.com/2010/07/15/great-sites-7-15/

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  91. Now that Jan did a fantastic favor for you, come pay it forward on my blog! (It will not cost you a penny!)

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  92. What a lovely moment between two strangers. Thank you so much for sharing.

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