It's been a hard slog but finally, after 5 days of passing ships we managed to see each other on Sunday – which was also our 2 year wedding anniversary.The first day together after a hectic work week can rapidly go pear-shaped and over the last year I've learnt – through many a trial and error – to ease into it slowly and gently. The key for us is to let the day take its course naturally and ease up on any pressure to make every second of it meaningful. I used to get very frustrated if things weren't going according to what I had envisaged in my head but I've since realised that it's much more beneficial to wake up with no expectations and an open mind.
(For the record we had a cracker day).
whooo hoo for you - craker days without the expectation are great!
ReplyDeleteps - love love love the look of that yellow dress xx
ooh stop it with your fresh blooms, designer threads and fancy chocolate. do you know what I dealt with today? no? POO. yes, poo.
ReplyDeletexo em
but really, love your nuts!
it took me ages to figure this one out, and we still struggle through most weekends. michael used to work crazy long hours...these things do change.
ReplyDeleteHaha – Em! The other 5 days were shite. This was the silver lining. Seriously – any opportunity to frock up and I'll take it. x
ReplyDeletehappy anniversary sweetheart! you are a rockstar! thank you as always for your honesty. you are a golden glow :)
ReplyDeleteLove the flowers and the threads! glad you had a cracker day. xx
ReplyDeletehappy 2nd anniversary! what a huge first 2 years you've had! congratulations. beautiful photos as usual. x kk
ReplyDeletePeonies and a Kate Sylvester dress? Very jealous!
ReplyDelete...and any opportunity to *choc* up and *I'll* take it... seriously Anna, this post was not good for my late night sweet cravings...
ReplyDelete...back to the real issue of this post: Happy Anniversary, glad to hear you had a good day together.
I can so relate to what you've said... Paddy spent years doing fly in/out work at the mines. he'd be away for a few weeks and then back for 6 days, and it was just so weird. It literally took a couple of days to get used to being around eachother again - we'd have 2 good days in the middle - and then the last 2 days were overshadowed with the knowing that he was leaving again. There was so much pressure to make it all count... and so much pressure to be all 'loved up' and smitten - when the reality was often just...awkward and frustrating.
No expectations and no pressure definitely makes for more fulfilling moments together.
Happy Anniversary to you gorgeous Rummeys. Pretty pretty flowers and an oh so pretty dress (in the best colour!) Glad to hear it was a corker.
ReplyDeleteI've learnt from Ben to not put so much pressure on days like this - i am a bit of a planner, whereas he's so good at spontaneity and seeing where the day leads. I'm getting better at it all the time, which given the impending arrival of our teeny friend is most definitely a good thing! xx
Dear Anna, Happy, happy anniversary!
ReplyDeleteI have high expectations still after 8 years (very soon) of being married. You are very wise and I shall think of you next time I find myself getting hot and bothered and DISAPPOINTED ;-)
The yellow top is STUNNING! May I have it please one day when it's getting a bit worn and grey?
Yes! We have the same thing going on. My husband works 80 hours a week on average and when (if!) he gets a day off it's so hard not to try and make it The Best Day Ever. Much smoother sailing if we just take it as it comes. Actually, that's a life lesson I should apply to other parts of my existence, too :)
ReplyDeletehappy anniversary! :)
ReplyDeleteHappy anniversary. The peonies+dress+and chocolate all look divine - definitely the right ingredients for a good day!
ReplyDeleteHmm, I can almost smell the peonies from here. They are so beautiful. Happy anniversary MB+PB! I remember that I discovered your blog via your wedding photos. It looked like such a wonderful day and seems like you guys had another great 27/11 together two years down the line. As for expectations, yep, best not to have any to avoid the disappointment. I've learned that one too (though I'm still working on it!). Bises bises
ReplyDeletea) this looks completely marvelous and b) I so hear you with the expectations thing. Im getting better and better at suppressing my (usually unreasonable!) ideas of how everything should be and just enjoy the moment more! *S*
ReplyDeleteLove your photos. Love the peonies. Love the frock. And I love the choc. And I think you're pretty dern fabulous too.
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary beautiful Rummeys. x
A familiar post... I totally hear you on this one lady!
ReplyDeleteSounds like you're doing the exact right things though.
AND Happy Anniversary!xx
Happy anniversary! The dress and the peonies sure are gorgeous. But that choc? Um I'm meant to be detoxing and now all I can think about is chocolate with extra fondente. I'm pretty sure I'd love it. Even though I'm not exactly sure what it is. Kellie xx
ReplyDeletecongratulations! Glad you had a good anniversary day.
ReplyDeleteIt's amazing it has been 2 years since you got married - I started reading you after your wedding was featured on a wedding blog (Once Wed? Snippet and Ink?)
Congrats Rummeys. Glad it was a cracker xxx
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